E62 Happiness Isn’t the Goal in Relationships (Here's What to Pursue Instead)

Ever felt like it’s your full-time job to keep your partner happy? Guess what—it’s not even in your job description!

In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When…" Podcast, we break down an Instagram reel from @buildthepositivity w/ Jef DeWitt that challenges the idea that a healthy relationship is all about happiness. Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or even just navigating friendships and family relationships, we dive into what it actually means to love and support others without carrying the weight of their emotions. 

Join us as we unpack practical ways to cultivate trust, stability, and genuine connection—without slipping into people-pleasing. We’ll also tackle the difference between happiness and holiness (hint: one is the goal, the other is a byproduct) and how pursuing godliness strengthens every relationship in your life. With real-life examples, biblical insight, and a few laughs along the way, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking Christ-centered relationships.

So, what does it really mean to love well? And how do we set an atmosphere that fosters both joy and holiness? Tune in as we explore these questions, share personal stories, and offer encouragement for singles, couples, and everyone in between. Let’s grow in faith and love—together.

Listen to original reel here.